Couples Therapy in Brooklyn, NY
Virtual therapy available throughout New York State
You miss feeling like you're on the same team.
These days, it only takes one wrong look or sideways comment to start an argument. You feel stuck on a loop, having the same communication breakdowns over and over without finding resolution. You want to meet each other's needs, but feel blocked by resentment, misunderstanding, or old hurts. These cycles leave you exhausted and cause the distance between you to keep growing.
You long to rediscover the intimacy and ease your relationship used to have. You just don't know how.
Here's where couples therapy comes in.
Couples Therapy in Brooklyn, NY Might Be for You If...
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You have fights that tread the same ground topically or feel the same emotionally and you want to break free from the repetition.
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You've gotten so used to feeling frustrated, defensive, and lonely in your relationship that change is starting to feel insurmountable.
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You're struggling to repair broken trust in your partnership due to infidelity, secrecy, or unfulfilled commitments.
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Over time, your emotional and physical intimacy with your partner has been waning and you're longing to find your connection again.
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You're going through a big transition like marriage, parenthood, or career changes and your relationship is feeling the stress of it.
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You or your partner are grappling with past wounds or traumas that are affecting the way you relate to each other.
How Couples Therapy in Brooklyn, NY Can Help
Our work together can help you:
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Disrupt recurring patterns of tension and misunderstanding so you can actually hear each other
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Repair broken trust and heal from relational wounds
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Gain skills for communicating effectively with your partner and for resolving conflicts more lovingly and with greater ease
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Address the impact of stressful life events or traumatic experiences so they no longer weigh on your relationship
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Strengthen your foundation, deepen your bond, and feel true closeness with your partner again
Couples counseling in Brooklyn, NY is a space for you and your partner to better understand the patterns that keep you stuck and develop new, more impactful ways of connecting with each other. Therapy can help you foster a relationship dynamic in which you both feel genuinely seen, valued, and loved.
My Approach to Therapy for Couples
In couples counseling with me, our focus will be on how and why you and your partner relate to each other the way you do.
Sessions won't just be spent re-hashing the surface level content of your arguments or trying to figure out who is "right." Instead, we'll look closely at the ways that you and your partner interact and figure out what those interactions mean about what each of you need on a deeper level. We'll slow down when things start to get tense and get curious about the moments where one or both of you feel hurt, defensive, misunderstood, or withdrawn. Then we'll use the information we uncover to forge greater understanding between you.
We'll also explore how each of your relationship histories inform the way you react and respond to each other. We'll investigate the way past hurts and unmet needs drive what you seek from one another now. This allows each of you to unlock your capacity to offer each other comfort, safety, and security in a specific, personalized way.
As conflict softens, empathy grows, and emotional connection deepens, you'll be more prepared to face future challenges together and maintain a secure, lasting bond beyond the therapy space.
In couples work, I primarily use an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which consists of three stages:
De-Escalation - Where we take down the temperature between you and your partner and untangle the knots of negative interaction patterns in your relationship. We'll give a name to the cycles you find yourself in, help you figure out their origins, and start building tools for disrupting and deescalating them.
Restructuring - Where we start practicing new ways of communicating that will allow you and your partner to connect and feel emotionally safe with one another. Sessions will focus on opening up, expressing needs, and learning how meet those needs for one another. It's here that we have conversations that deepen trust, restore intimacy, and help you feel on solid ground as a couple.
Consolidation - Where we practice the new skills and patterns we've developed until they start to feel instinctual and familiar. We'll look ahead to how you can tackle future difficulties as a team and explore ways to continue nurturing your bond. This phase prepares you to continue growing together and building a union of closeness, trust, and love.
Interested in starting couples therapy in Brooklyn, NY?Here are your next steps:
Book Your Free Consultation
Hop on a 15 minute phone call with me to get all your questions answered, hear more about me and my approach, and get a sense of what it would be like to work together.
Schedule a First Session
We'll discuss scheduling on our consultation call and find a weekly day and time to meet. From there I'll send you some forms to fill out prior to our appointment.
Start Couples Therapy!
In our initial sessions, we'll identify problematic patterns at their root and learn strategies to defuse them. From there, we'll work to rebuild trust and foster new, healthier ways of relating.
